Many of you have heard about my recent adventures in single mommydom and have sent your regards and best wishes. I am very thankful for your kind words of support.
I came down from Missouri with what I thought were virtually no resources, just a truck full of belongings that I didn't want to part with because they defined who I was - a person who was formerly successful. They were my trophies I could gaze upon when the going was rough, and I could tell myself, "See, you were able to accumulate all this "wealth" before. You will be able to do it again." It was a very self-centered way of viewing things, but it helped me survive the past two months of joblessness/underemployment.
However, as Caitlin completed the real life game of refrigerator "Tetris," I realized how blessed we are. The State saw fit to give me much of what we needed to survive physically (with a big help from mother and underpaid landlord.) I have friends who were willing to tote the load off of the truck, clean the critters out of the cabinets, hang blinds, assemble furniture...the list goes on.
The fridge and pantry "tetrisally" arranged by Caitlin
If you read the book A Framework for Understanding Poverty by Ruby Payne, you come to understand that there are many kinds of resources out there other than financial resources. These include:
- Emotional - Being able to choose and control emotional responses
- Mental - Having the mental abilities and acquired skills to deal with daily life.
- Spiritual - Believing in divine purpose and guidance.
- Physical - Having physical health and mobility.
- Support Systems - Having friends, family, and backup resources to access in times of need.
- Knowledge of Hidden Rules - Knowing the unspoken cues and habits of a group.
I would like to thank everyone who has personally helped us through this time. The dark times are slowly coming to an end. The kids and I are finally feeling at home where we are because of you.